where can I get these "special" Quarz oscillator, running not at 5MHz, but at an unusual frequency of 20.37504 MHz ? AFAIK only Lisa used this frequency- why is this necesary- can I run it with exactly 20.0000 MHz?
Yes, as far as I know, you can use a 20 MHz oscillator. Decades ago I installed a 20 MHz crystal to repair a CPU board and AFAIK there were no issues.
I haven't figured out why Apple chose the unusual frequency... does anyone else know or have a probable explanation?
Now that there are "programmable" oscillators, some suppliers will program an oscillator to the frequency that you request, and 20.37504 MHz is no more difficult than 20.00000 MHz.
Looking at what DigiKey has today, choices for a 5V, TTL output, through hole programmable oscillator lead you to a selection of EPSON SGR-8002 parts. The board accepts both "full size" and "half size" oscillators.
Either the Standby or Enable control version will work as the control pin is grounded on that board. Either commercial or industrial temperature range is sufficient, and for this purpose 50PPM or 100PPM accuracy is irrelevant.
Picking one of the options, eg.
https://www.digikey.com/en/products/detail/epson/SGR-8002DC-PTB/755251 it says it is a "value added item" which means that you should disregard the stock level of 0 as they make them to order. It says "Enter your frequency in Web Order Notes" so add something like "program SGR-8002DC to 20.37504 MHz". The programming is included in the price and is done within a day in my experience.
Note that the programmable oscillators require a special programmer (ie. not an EPROM programmer), and typically can be programmed only twice (they can't be erased and reprogrammed many times the way a UV EPROM can).